Before meeting my husband, Robert, I never even dated anyone who had kids from a previous relationship. Therefore, when I officially became a stepmom, I was overwhelmed by this new role. Where was the manual? I found myself in so many confusing, frustrating and awkward situations that I didn’t know how to handle which resulted in a lot of anxiety. Luckily, through trial and error (and therapy!) I’ve managed to successfully carve out a unique role for myself as a stepmom within my blended family.
Recently I have been receiving lots of emails from new stepmoms that describe a very similar situation to mine when I first became a stepmom. Of course I want to help a sista out so I came up with 5 concrete tips for the new (or soon to be) stepmom. I’ve found these rules of thumb to be very helpful throughout my journey and I am confident they will be for you too!
5 Tips for the New Stepmom:
Don’t forget to put your marriage first
Take the high road with the ex
Be patient when it comes to bonding with your stepkids
Don’t be too hard on yourself
Get a stepmom crew to vent to!